When I moved to Texas, I loudly proclaimed that I wished I was back home. Amn vbny old geezer told me, “Wish in one hand and spit in the other, dawlin, and tell me which hand fills up faster.” At the wise age of ten, I thought this idea totally disgusting, and the ancient man completely out of his mind. Why in heaven’s name would I spit in my hand? His point, of course, was that simply wishing for something was “nonsense.” We humans are neither Pinocchio nor Papa Geppetto. I find that this theory seems to lead to a common misconception with the Law of Attraction, as well. People tend to wish for something, and then they become angry or confused when the wish is not fulfilled. There is more to fulfilling a dream than a simple wish. You actually do have to spit, and then rub your hands together.
Now, do not get me wrong. Wishing is great. It makes us feel alive, motivated, and energized. It makes us feel like we can do anything, which is actually one job for our brain’s amygdala. The more energized we feel, the more the amygdala motivates us and sends messages to our frontal lobe to help us solve problems so we can achieve our goals. This is one part of the Law of Attraction that many people are familiar with: “you have to feel like you have had it before,” or “you have to feel like you already have it now,” or “you have to be grateful for already receiving what you have asked for.” This is one hand, and it feels great once you can get your brain in this mindset. This is only the beginning.
You do not need to spit in the other hand, unless you absolutely want to. The metaphor, or what the spit represents—the action you take—provides the magic to fulfill the dream. 🙂 You have to put yourself into action to make your dream a reality.
ACTIONS YOU CAN TAKE
- Declare your dream or wish as specifically as possible. Think of this as going to McDonald’s. You would not ask for a Big Mac, then ask the cashier, “Is that OK, or should I order a different burger? Click To Tweet I have written about this before, but it bears repeating. Figure out exactly what you want. Do not ask, “Should I order more? Should I order less? Do you think I should get a shake with that? What flavor?” The manager will politely escort you out the door. One more time, for the cheap seats: figure out exactly what you want.
- Ask yourself this one question: What can I do to make this possible? Christie Marie Sheldon asks her clients, “What would it take to accomplish this?” Get some paper and a pen. Free write, or write in a web map; do whatever it is that you do when you get ideas going, but write down every and any idea that comes into your head. No idea is dumb or wrong. You can prioritize, arrange, or delete them later, but you first need to write down any possible ways to accomplish your goal. For instance, if you want a new car, what things would help you accomplish this? The MSRP of the car would probably be a good thing to know. Would you be paying cash for the car, or would you need to take out a loan? If you need more money to get the car, what could you do to obtain the extra income? Could the merchant come down on the price? Is there something extra on the car that you do not want? Keep asking.
- The Law of Attraction works both ways. If you think that your ideas won’t work, or if you have the mindset that your goal is impossible, your brain will actually shut down on you, and creativity will slow or stop. This is why some people become confused or angry when they are not as successful as they would like, when in truth they are completely successful. If your thoughts are negative, you will achieve more reasons to be negative. Just remember the McDonald’s analogy. If you go in and ask the cashier what you want, or if you order and then tell her you are wrong but you have no idea how to change and fix your order, you will get a polite escort out the door. Without any food or drink.
- Be patient. For some, manifesting a wish may come easily and quickly. It may be an easy wish (“I wish I’d pass that history test”), or they may have been unconsciously working on it for some time (they were learning history all along as they took notes and made flash cards). For others, the wish may take a while to manifest. Other things may need to take place before the wish comes true. Relax, work through the challenges, and enjoy the process of learning and successfully achieving the necessary steps. Look back at other things you have accomplished, feel the pride of success, and remind yourself that other projects took a while, as well.
- Find pleasure in smaller accomplishments, and reward yourself for these. We do 124,000 correct things each and every day. That is over 100,000 reasons to celebrate! Click To Tweet Look at your “to-do” list for accomplishing your goal. Did you cross something off? Rejoice! Every small step you accomplish builds a stronger foundation for your goal. You have the right to feel good about each successful endeavor, so smile!
THIS IS THE BIG SECRET. Believe that there is always a way, and keep going until you find it. Most successful people usually do something just a little different from what “everybody else” did to succeed, but the one thing they all have in common is that they kept trying until they found a way to succeed. Keep asking yourself, “What can I do to make this possible?” or “What would it take to make this a reality?” Relax, and let your brain come up with suggestions. It loves puzzles, and the amygdala will light up and motivate your frontal lobe to find answers to these questions. Then prioritize what the brain gives you, figure out your plan, then act on your plan until you get where you want to be. Go, cupcake!
You can’t just wish upon a star, my darling Cupcake: you have to build a ladder to climb, a bungee cord to catapult you, or even an eagle to fly you up to that star.
So, what do you do to organize your thoughts and plans after you decide upon your goal? How do you banish your doubts so you can continue?