5 Ways to Tell if Ego or Soul is Directing You
So, Happy New Year to you, your ego and your soul! The New Year Resolution Game came and went. Several people made great resolutions; most have already dropped them. Some have bravely continued on their quest to do something that seems important, meaningful things…according to their egos.
And some already know the truth: only by knowing (and honoring) our soul’s true intention can we improve our lives in meaningful and lasting ways. Click To Tweet
And it really doesn’t matter what time of year it is (actually, if you listen to astrologers, January 1 was a horrible time to try anything new, but January 25 is a GREAT time to start manifesting, so hey, this week is perfect). The more honest with yourself you are, the higher you can go in this world.
So, what the heck is a person’s “soul” intention? Basically, it is the part of us that has never been damaged, or hurt, or lonely, or scared, or anything negative. In each one of us, there remains a part that is truly the perfection that God (or Spirit or Source) gave us upon the moment of our creation on this Earth. Some of us have always been in tune with our true intention, and we have nurtured it our entire lives; we now live a life of harmony, very little (if any) stress, and joy.
Some of us have been beat to hell and back with life, and we have no idea how to connect with that little piece of ourselves. Heck, some of us doubt we even have something that wonderful inside of us. As most healers are commenting in tele-summits all over social media and beyond, it seems that most healers in this lifetime are being attacked, and they have to do some serious soul searching to find their perfect selves, their untouched souls, their true intentions.
First, as you are contemplating your goals, figure out if what you want is ego-driven, or soul-driven. How can you tell? I’ll give you two examples.
Example number one(stolen from Your Year of Miracles): WEIGHT LOSS. If you say, “I want to lose 50 pounds so I can look good in my clothes,” you are speaking from ego. You are subconsciously trying to fit into an idea of what you are supposed to look like based on society’s conditioning.
However, if you say, “I want to be healthy, and have my outside match my inside beauty so I can do more for others and fulfill my purpose with more energy and ease,” this is soul speak. Think about it: if you truly are trying to be optimally healthy, and you want to maximize your potential in everything you do, you are probably taking amino acids instead of fat burners or French fries, drinking water and teas instead of sodas or milkshakes, or eating fresh fruit instead of deep-fried donuts or my famous brownies. You are most likely exercising outside several days a week, and inside when the weather is not cooperative. You will lose the weight, and as long as you are focused on maintaining your health so that you can make the world a better place (be it by teaching, by consulting, by writing, by building, whatever your niche is), you will feel so much better than what a simple dress size can give you. Don’t get me wrong: if the ex sees you in a killer dress, that’s always a cherry on top, but if you’re focused on your soul’s true intent, you won’t even be tempted to be that petty.
Example number two (stolen from one of Rikka Zimmerman’s seminars): EARN MORE MONEY. If you have a certain dollar figure in your head, such as “I have to make $1.2 million dollars this year to be happy,” you are speaking from—you know this, I’m sure—your ego. It is not money that is making you unhappy; it is something else.
If, however, you know what you want to do with your life this year (speak at three more engagements, put on two more seminars, or get some supplies to get more products out to more people) and why you are doing this (more freedom to spend time with loved ones or traveling) and you are truly doing this for your highest purpose, things will just begin to happen for you. Your plans will seem clearer, and the right people will appear to help you. It’s like magic, if you can remember to keep your ego out of it.
Which is really hard to do for most of us. It’s just too easy to make specific goals, then very specific plans with time frames and spread sheets and prizes for success and lower self-esteem for even the least bit of stalling. Don’t get me wrong: goals and plans are important, even necessary, which I have discussed in another post. To get an A in class, one needs to study and do exemplary work (and meet deadlines); to add more clients, one needs to create more opportunities to be spectacular. But somewhere in all of this, you need to find your balance between reality and magic, the ego and the soul.
- Ask yourself a question, then go do something that will take your mind off it and let your subconscious simmer. Carol Tuttle suggests playing with a deck of cards. Flip them over, study them, and let your mind wander. She admits that sometimes she goes through the pack twice, but the answer always comes to her. My dad used to sing his favorite song when he was trying to make a decision, and he swore the answer always came to him somewhere in the chorus.
2. Try a version of muscle testing. The easiest version is one with your hands, but I prefer the version where you use your whole body. Stand straight up, away from any electronics, and turn everything off (if you can do this outside, even better). Close your eyes, and find your balance. Breathe in and out a few times, and take your time as you relax into yourself. When you are ready, ask yourself a yes/no question, and pay attention to the first reaction of your body. If it leans forward, the answer is “yes.” If it leans backward, the answer is “no.” It’s really important to be patient with yourself and relax before you ask a question, otherwise your body may not react with an answer. The first time I did this correctly, I almost fell backwards!
3. Instead of asking a question, make it a statement, and immediately pay attention to how you feel. Anything positive feeling is a “true” statement. Symptoms might feel something like: lighthearted, your breathing quickens, your chin comes up, you suddenly feel more relaxed, or anything else that has an “upward” or “quicker” mental or physiological reaction. Think of this as your higher self totally approving of you. Anything negative—your throat gets choked up, you feel a knot in your stomach, your head hurts, you feel nausea, your shoulders hunch up—is a “false” statement. Your ego is most likely trying to take over.
4. Meditate. Set the intention to find your true self, and nurture it. Experts say mornings are the best time, and some say that if you do it before you get out of bed, you’ll be in a great mood the rest of the day. Other experts say it doesn’t matter. Deepok Chopah gives this advice to those who are too busy: “Those who don’t have time to meditate actually need it the most.” Studies show that meditation has emotional and physical benefits for those who consistently practice. Ten minutes is all you need.
5. Keep something to help you stay grounded in the present “you” moment. Some people use crystals, others use specific beads, and some use worry stones or small scripture cards. It doesn’t really matter; this is your talisman, so knock yourself out. The ego has had several years keeping you alive and safe; sometimes it feels uncomfortable just letting the “soul self” take charge.
So, Cupcake, who’s in charge of your life? What are you doing to make it better? What do you do to keep yourself on your higher path and purpose? What advice can you share for others who aren’t sure of themselves?