What Can You Add to Your Cupcake? (10 Ways to Change Your Brain Pattern Without Thinking)




When we work on self-improvement, we often try to “let go” of things, and most people agree this is best for us. If we rid ourselves of “items” or emotions that no longer serve us, we will be happier, more complete. Our brain patterns will change with our sacrifice, because we are sacrificing that which harms us.

But is this all we have to do? Is sacrifice truly the key ingredient to making ourselves one hundred percent amazing? We just have to give up something? The word itself, sacrifice, brings forth tight feelings by its mere mention; guilty residual from past accusations of selfishness,  or perhaps inner pain stirs in the heart or head. Maybe our brains inherently remember the definition calls for the killing of a calf or offering something precious to God or other deity.  Maybe we have so little that we cannot bear to lose more. Maybe our brains are a mess because of past life lessons. Not only do we have trouble seeing how much we actually own, we cannot even begin to see how much we have to offer, and what we can give.

I love Christie Marie Sheldon , Jennifer McLean and several others in spiritual healing fields. I believe that we need to bury hatchets, forgive and forget, and try to find a way to magnify our gifts and live our passion. As Joshua Bloom said in one of his interviews, “Science works, no matter what we believe.” We cannot deny that if we are out of tune somehow— if we don’t get enough sleep, we eat unhealthy food, or we stay angry for long periods of time—there are specific consequences. We do some serious damage do our bodies, our psyche, and even our relationships (personal and business). Sometimes, though, it is damn near impossible to bury a hatchet, especially when I you a person so strongly desires to place that hatchet in someone’s back (or heart, or wherever). So, let us forget about all the heavy stuff. Just let it go for a few minutes, OK? This is not that kind of blog today.

I was raised in the Catholic Church. I have visited other religions, attended various churches, but when I take Communion, it is in the Catholic Church, and when I go home to my visit my relatives, we go to service in the Catholic Church. I’m not extremely devout, but people who know me believe that I have faith in God. I admit, most of the Catholic sermons are not like some of the “rock star” sermons I have attended in other churches. The priests are not loud, and their sermons are seldom entertaining. However, every now and then, we cross paths with a cheerful ball of heavenly energy , and it is an awesome experience. In a church where one is always expected to sacrifice our evil natures (sugar, bad language, Dr. Peppers), one priest changed my world of sacrifice forever.

“While giving up something is all very well, what if we did something to take something up?” He explained that if we could add something godlike in our routines, our actions would also practice spiritual self-discipline, and the bonus is that we would feel better about ourselves on more levels than simply emotional. And rather than explain this, I can give you ten activities to try. I challenge you to come up with some of our own.


Ten Ways to “Take Something Up”

  1. Call someone you haven’t spoken to in a long time for no other reason than you love him or her.
  2. Instead of taking the closest parking spot, park farther away so someone else (without a handicapped decal who is ill or weaker than you) can have it.
  3. You add something healthy to the meal before you have your treat. (Don’t you dare be a smart-aleck and say that cupcakes have milk and eggs in them, so that’s healthy; opt for a vegetable or two, a natural protein, and more water).
  4. Before you go out drinking with the girls (or guys), drink at least sixteen ounces of water before Bacchus’ ambrosia flows. Better yet, try drinking some water during the outing. This will help with the dehydration and hangover effect in the morning.
  5. Take inventory of what you haven’t used in the last six months, or even the last year (a sweater you did not wear, the pair of boots that looks suspiciously like seven other pairs of boots you own). Gather the forgotten or abandoned items, and give them to the charity of your choice. Now, you have more room to buy more items. J You’re welcome.
  6. Unplug from all electronic gadgets, and spend time with a loved one.
  7. Get a buddy to go for a walk.
  8. Write a letter to someone, and send it through snail mail. Yes, like for real, with a concrete writing instrument, on genuine paper, put into an actual envelope and a real live stamp (they have some pretty cool stamps out now). Think about it: when is the last time you received a “hi there” for no reason in your mailbox?
  9. Make something for someone to show gratitude. I bake, but that’s because I can, and the people I bribe like my goodies. Cards are usually another hit.
  10. Volunteer. For anything that you want.

So, here you go, dear reader: ten ingredients that I added to my own cupcake self. I admit, the boot sacrifice was hard for me. However, I am sure that somebody also found them wonderful, and wore them more than I ever would. Feel free to mull this over. Better yet, I suggest you try ONE way to “take something up” of your choosing for a week, and let me know how it goes. Brave? Awesome. Try two. Also, did you come up with any other ways to “take something up?” How did you feel when you did this? Did anything happen that corresponded with your action and emotion? I’m interested, so feel free to share!

rainbow-cupcake                                                                                                                                       As always, keep me posted, make it a rainbow day, and stay frosted!

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20 thoughts on “What Can You Add to Your Cupcake? (10 Ways to Change Your Brain Pattern Without Thinking)

    1. Gin, thank you for stopping by! If you have any ideas to add to my list, feel free to share! The more options people have, the more likely they are to try something, and feel better in the process. Have a cupcake kind of week, and stay safe! 🙂

  1. Glad to see we are on the same wavelength this week in sharing ways to use our brains to change our minds. All the things you mention are great ways to change our perspective and focus on something more positive. We do have the choice. I also remember something Bruce Lipton has said in The Biology of Belief: That one unconscious belief is a million times more powerful than all the affirmations or conscious brain activities we can do and that is why it is often challenging to flip them. I know that we do have to change the belief at a very deep soul level for the shift or transformation to actually take hold. Sometimes we can’t do this on our own, no matter how hard we try. This is why it is challenging for people to change their eating habits, as often, we’ve got our metabolism so off kilter, that we need help to rebalance it again. I also say to do whatever works for you. I love walking. It helps slow me down and shift me from what I was focused on to the nature around me. The key in it all is awareness and the ability to stand back and observe what is happening to us, to let the emotions that are running us go, and to choose a new circuit to run. Thanks for sharing yourself in this post and happy we are running on the same wavelength too. 🙂

    1. Beverley, the trick is to believe on a deep level. According to Jerome Bloom, when people do not truly believe the positive affirmations, they actually produce a whiplash effect on themselves. Hence, my small steps to changing brain patterns and producing positive results! Walking is another great way to clear your head and shift to a more positive state of being. It’s crazy how we both wrote about the same things this week. Great minds think alike! 🙂 Have a cupcake kind of week, my friend.

  2. Well.. I got you girl… I have most of these covered, but I think I struggle with the same thing you do.. I just want to bury the hatchet in someone’s back or something… yea, I have a little road rage issue too.. I just want to ram people! 😉 Don’t judge.

    I just called my bff yesterday
    I always park in the back cuz I don’t like “fighting” for spots
    I add spinach to my protein shake
    I drink water with my rita (plus there’s water in beer and ritas already, duh)
    If I don’t use it, I donate it
    Devices are unplugged at every meal and we have weekend meals as a family (all 3, both days) and have family dinner nightly
    I work out every am with new buddies at the gym, otherwise, no buddies here in Tx (damn state)
    I actually still use actual cards to thank referrals and bday cards and such. I just came across old postcards (I used to collect them) and am going to buy stamps for them and start using them randomly (what’s your address?)
    I’ll send you mine so you can bribe me any time you want with cupcakes! LOL

    Done.. how’s them sprinkles on my rainbow cupcakes? 🙂

    1. Kristen, you need to move to my area so we can work out! I need a new buddy, since my last one moved to Florida, sniff. And if you give me your address, I will send you cupcakes for your birthday. You definitely deserve sprinkles, the glitter, and the candy pieces. You’re all over it, girlfriend! Have a cupcake kind of week! 🙂

  3. Great article! All the things you listed to do to “take something up” are easy to do yet most don’t take time to do them! Just spoke with a good friend the other day who I haven’t spoken to in quite some time. Was great to catch up! All those small things can lead to a more positive mind set too!

    1. Thanks, Michael! It always amazes me how a simple thing such as a phone call makes both people feel better! Glad to hear that my list works for others, so thank you for sharing. If you come up with any other ideas, feel free to share. Have a great week! 🙂

  4. In the not too distant past, i was guilty of not doing a lot of the above… further in the past I did mostly all.. and now have come back around full circle to doing just about all again. It’s very easy to let life get too busy, too stressful, too overwhelming and then we realize again that life doesn’t have to be that way. And as soon as you to start implementing each of these, life miraculously starts becoming easier again. We do. after all ,create our own universe.

    1. Lisa, thank you for your honesty. The best thing about our lives is we can change at any time. This was just one of my lists; we can always come up with our own list, or just do one thing. Thanks also for your last comment, as we do create our own universe. Have a cupcake kind of week, and thanks again for stopping by! 🙂

  5. I think I am pretty good about “taking something up” every day. As much as we complain about social media being such a time sucker, it does help me stay in touch with people so I know when they might need something. I actually send at least one person every day a private message just to let them know I am thinking about them. It could be for something as simple as “hey, how’s it going?” or checking in to see how their recent chemo treatment went. I think at this point it comes naturally but I still have a reminder set up to go off at 4 pm just in case I need a gentle nudge 🙂

    1. Beth, you are such an awesome cupcake! You deserve sprinkles on top of the frosting! A private message is such a good idea, and setting your alarm as a gentle reminder is brilliant. Thank you for sharing, and have a great week! 🙂

    1. Thank you, Beth. If you feel like sharing a couple of new ideas, please return and post here. It will give others a bigger list, and hopefully a better chance for feeling good about themselves! Have a great week! 🙂

    1. Thanks, Natalie! If you have some ideas of your own, that would be great, too! The more we can add to this list, the more opportunity we have to spread joy with others! 🙂

  6. I love #6 Unplug from all electronic gadgets, and spend time with a loved one. This is what we’re trying to do over the weekend and for at least one hour daily. It gives a wonderful feeling you’re doing the right thing and also makes you feel great! Thanks for the other suggestions.

    1. Thanks, Delia. I have more and more clients doing #6, just so they can keep in touch with each other and not be interrupted by social media, which I find ironic in our group. Do you have another idea that you like to take up?

  7. Always focus on the thoughts or positive perspectives. that is, on the things you have the power to change. By training the brain to rewire something productive, there is no room for negative thoughts. Keep up and be motivated!

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