5 Signs you still hold a grudge, and 3 ways to release your pain and forgive
Let me know if this has ever happened to you. You go out with friends, and you see someone who betrayed you in the past. It could have happened several years ago, or it could have happened last month. While you thought you made your peace with the situation, you see or hear something small and insignificant—she tosses her head, or she laughs—and all hell breaks loose in your body. A knot forms in your stomach, your pulse quickens, and your blood pressure increases. You say something you hope sounds pleasant as she toward you, and then you escape. You find yourself in the bathroom counting to 100 or outside on the patio meditating. Maybe you find yourself in front of the bar, asking for a bowl-sized margarita. And as you ask for extra salt or continue your count, you realize that you are still holding that grudge, Cupcake. Continue reading Stop Holding that Grudge, Cupcake (3 ways to forgive)→
How to Stop Jonesin’ and Deal with Jealousy During the Holidays
What is Jonesin’?
When I was a young penniless college student, my best friend and I would drive in affluent neighborhoods during Christmas time and look at the decorations adorning magnificent homes and expansive yards. Sometimes there would be parties with valets, and luxury cars would add to the glowing lights and dreamy appeal. We would “ooh” and “ahh” and admire the things we didn’t have, and when we saw something we really liked, we would point and make the comment, “I’m Jonesin’ for that.” It was our way of acknowledging the abundance of others as we admitted our lack and our desire to be and keep up with the” Joneses” in a wealthy world in which we did not belong. We were dreamy-eyed and inspired by our jealousy to create more. We wanted those worlds. Continue reading I’m Jonesin’ for you, Cupcake! Stop being Jealous→
It always amazes me when I have a new client and ask her how she wants me to help. “To get better.” I always have to encourage them to go further into their heads and think of something more specific. To save your reading time, I will tell you that the goals usually end up similar to this: I want to be a Champ/Super Champ, I want to be number one on the middle school team, I want to be in the top six on the varsity team, I want to beat (name) in my next challenge match. Once we get to this point, it becomes easier for them to learn the benefit of setting clear goals. Clear goals are easier to achieve. Continue reading What Do You Really Want, Cupcake? (The Benefit of Setting Clear Goals)→
…That You Failed. (Why the Laws of Attraction Seem To Reject Some People.)
Ever had a day that started out bad, then got worse? Why do the Laws of Attraction seem to reject some people, and bless others beyond belief? Is it karma, or penance for unconfessed sins? Has the Goddess Fortune returned from mythology to teach us about fate, or is it all just dumb luck? Or is it something that we actually manifest ourselves, as mind experts suggest? Continue reading Dear Cupcake, After Careful Consideration, We Regret To Inform You…→
I’m dying. Not like “buried in the ground” dying, but definitely at the end of my rope. I am exhausted. My heart rate is just barely faster than a bunny rabbit’s, and I’m in the cool down. I can’t hold my leg up for a quad stretch because my arms are too weak. Everything feels heavy, and I am covered in so much sweat that I am my very own swimming pool. My friend, Heather Santo, shared Bob Harper’s new Daily Burn workout site on her Facebook page, and I thought to myself, If Heather thinks it’s great, it’s gotta be a ton of fun, right? Continue reading Bob Harper Needs a Cupcake! (What Happens When Competition and No Mind Merge)→
When we work on self-improvement, we often try to “let go” of things, and most people agree this is best for us. If we rid ourselves of “items” or emotions that no longer serve us, we will be happier, more complete. Our brain patterns will change with our sacrifice, because we are sacrificing that which harms us.