Let me know if you have had one of these days. You feel like the world is out to get you. Nothing goes right. Your clothes don’t fit. You feel fat. You feel stupid.Nobody cares about you. If you were really a good person, everything would go right for you. And then my all-time favorite question: ever have the day where you ask, “Why me?”
Usually, this is the time where someone says, “God is working on you.” Maybe they are correct. Maybe you need to learn patience, or humility, or kindness. This is the case most of the time. It’s an easy enough concept, right? Sometimes when things go wrong, God (or Source, or the universe) is working on you. But not always.
Sometimes, my dearest Cupcake, your dark day is simply not about you.
Sometimes your trials may be about someone else.
Maybe God is not working on you; maybe He is working on someone else through you. What can you say or do that will help someone get through her own personal trial? What if God is working on someone that is supposed to help you? Do you want to cross paths with her now, when she may not be ready (able or willing) to assist you in a particular part of your life? Or would you rather be patient, stay on your little cupcake path, and count the blessings that you have in your life right now?
My question to you is simple: does it really matter “why” this is happening to you? Maybe you have something to learn (how to handle finances, or in my case, how to work a web-site correctly). Maybe you are in a holding pattern because someone is stuck in her life, and it may take her a while to get to you. Maybe you are meant to help someone who you do not even realize needs your help.
My suggestion to you is very simple. RELAX. Trust that you are exactly where you are supposed to be for whatever reason. There are no coincidences. If you just have to throw yourself into a questioning mode, can you ask questions that your brain will actually help you answer (and consequently shift your mood)?
1. Who can I help today?
2. How can I help someone today?
3. What can I do to give someone a positive experience?
4. How can I honor my personal gifts and share my passion in order to help myself and those around me?
If you do not know what your personal gifts are, get some cute notecards and go here.
Otherwise, get to it, cupcake! Add frosting, add a ton of sprinkles, and have a grand time with your cupcake life! Do you have any questions or thoughts that help you shift out of your “why me” mode of thinking? As always, let me know how it’s going, and stay frosted!