Every day, we are told in some way, “Cupcake, you’re Number Too.” Today I will explain why this is great, and how to accept yourself so you can realize this and share your greatness with the world.
I have been relegated to the land of “You’re too” in almost all aspects: my career, my love life, all relationships, and even school. In my lifetime I have been called:
MY WORLD OF TOO
Too young. TOO OLD. too fat. Too thin (I think I want that one back). Too aggressive. Too passive. Too tall. TOO SHORT. Too serious. Too immature. too smart. TOO OBTUSE. Too experienced, too inexperienced. Too loud. Too controlling. TOO INDECISIVE. Too intense. too air-headed. too restrained. Too conceited. Too shy. Too obsessive. Too forgetful. TOO SENSITIVE. Too callous. TOO FRIENDLY. Too anal. Too unorganized. Too intimidating. TOO CARING.
I am sure I have been called more. Once upon a time, the world of “too” really hurt my feelings. I desperately tried to fit the mold that these people swore I needed to fill. I wanted to belong so bad that I tried everything from changing my wardrobe to changing my hair color. I had several failed relationships, because eventually they would dump me because I had been miserably unsuccessful at being whatever it was they wanted me to be. Certain jobs were impossible to get, because I was not what the person hiring was looking for, and that vison changed from interview to interview; sometimes the vision even changed between people in the same interview process.
THE SIMPLE TRUTH
The truth is simple: I was never going to belong, no matter what I did. These people were in their own personal type of tribe, and whether they realized it or not, they gave me a clear message that took several years for me to hear: you are not like me, and I do not like you because of that.
This is a very simple message, but people do not say this phrase because it is socially rude and unacceptable. They might not say this phrase because they do not realize this is how they truly feel; they may be thinking this unconsciously. So, what can you do about this?
In a nutshell, nothing. You are who you are, and you can only “play” to be someone else for so long before strange things start happening. Click To TweetMaybe you gain weight, or lose it. Maybe you lose sleep, or sleep all day. Maybe you start to get headaches, or you feel cranky for no reason at all. The point is, the more you act like someone else’s idea of who you should be, the more doomed you will be to a life of sadness and hidden resentment. The longer you fight yourself, the longer you fight what is truly good for you.
So, my dearest cupcake, decide what kind of person you are and who you want to be.
And be happy. Be yourself, and be the best version of yourself that you can possibly be. You will attract the right people, the right jobs, and the best clients for you. In turn, you will do a better job for them, because you are the best person for them. Once you decide that your “truest” kind of world is better than four “wrong” jobs or six horrendous dates, better things will appear in your world.
As Oscar Wilde said, “Be yourself. Everyone else is taken.” Celebrate this! Do not hide your wonderful cupcakeness from the world. Click To Tweet You are precious, right now, at this very moment. If you live by faith in God, remember that you are the child of a KING. If you have faith in the universe, remember that you are made from energy, and think of all the things that have come together to make you a living, breathing, person instead of a bed bug or a blade of grass. That in itself is amazing, and so are you.
What makes you different? What makes you the frosting or the sprinkles that make someone else’s day better? If you’ve forgotten, you can go to this blog and do a little writing of your own. Share with us, so people can send you some serious good vibes and support you.