Category Archives: Self Help

Stop Holding that Grudge, Cupcake (3 ways to forgive)

5 Signs you still hold a grudge, and 3 ways to release your pain and forgive

Let me know if this has ever happened to you. You go out with friends, and you see someone who betrayed you in the past. It could have happened several years ago, or it could have happened last month. While you thought you made your peace with the situation, you see or hear something small and insignificant—she tosses her head, or she laughs—and all hell breaks loose in your body. A knot forms in your stomach, your pulse quickens, and your blood pressure increases. You say something you hope sounds pleasant as she toward you, and then you escape. You find yourself in the bathroom counting to 100 or outside on the patio meditating. Maybe you find yourself in front of the bar, asking for a bowl-sized margarita.  And as you ask for extra salt or continue your count, you realize that you are still holding that grudge, Cupcake.  Continue reading Stop Holding that Grudge, Cupcake (3 ways to forgive)

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Who’s In Charge Here, Cupcake? (Ego Versus Soul)

5 Ways to Tell if Ego or Soul is Directing You

So, Happy New Year to you, your ego and your soul! The New Year Resolution Game came and went. Several people made great resolutions; most have already dropped them. Some have bravely continued on their quest to do something that seems important, meaningful things…according to their egos.

And some already know the truth: only by knowing (and honoring) our soul’s true intention can we improve our lives in meaningful and lasting ways. Click To Tweet Continue reading Who’s In Charge Here, Cupcake? (Ego Versus Soul)

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I’m Jonesin’ for you, Cupcake! Stop being Jealous

How to Stop Jonesin’ and Deal with Jealousy During the Holidays

What is Jonesin’?

When I was a young penniless college student, my best friend and I would drive in affluent neighborhoods during Christmas time and look at the decorations adorning magnificent homes and expansive yards. Sometimes there would be parties with valets, and luxury cars would add to the glowing lights and dreamy appeal. We would “ooh” and “ahh” and admire the things we didn’t have, and when we saw something we really liked, we would point and make the comment, “I’m Jonesin’ for that.” It was our way of acknowledging the abundance of others as we admitted our lack and our desire to be and keep up with the” Joneses” in a wealthy world in which we did not belong. We were dreamy-eyed and inspired by our jealousy to create more. We wanted those worlds. Continue reading I’m Jonesin’ for you, Cupcake! Stop being Jealous

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Just Accept it, Cupcake

Early last summer, I visited a college mentor who offered to help me with my website and computer illiteracy. She had helped me start on this whole blog road, despite my terror of joining forces with computers and the looming danger of SkyNet. As a token of my appreciation, I brought her a small crystal bracelet from one of my favorite stores. Later that evening, she thanked me and wrote, “It’s just what I needed, but you are too generous!”

This seems like a normal, everyday “thank you” moment. On the surface,  this is a grateful and humble statement. In reality, this moment actually lowers both of our cellular vibrations and repels other good things from coming our ways. Why? In a nutshell, we are deflecting the good vibes that have been intended for us. We are not really accepting our gifts from others. We do not practice the art of receiving. Continue reading Just Accept it, Cupcake

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My Good Shoes Gone Bad, Cupcake!

http://ownyourcupcake.comeI don’t know what was worse this week; the fact that I entered my very first class as a GTA (Graduate Teaching Assistant) after all my darling freshmen were in their chairs, or the fact that my shoes gave me blisters this week. I think it’s the shoes. They are mad at me, and they have chosen this week for revenge. My good shoes have gone bad. And it’s really not my fault.

If you knew my weight gain story or my history as a teen, you would understand that I have several pairs of shoes for each occasion. My teaching shoes are no different; these are the shoes that are comfortable, have very low heels, and sometimes they even border on “cute.” They are all neutral colors, like black, brown, and “natural,” so they match with everything, and they are very practical. Other teachers will understand this. I also have some purple and cranberry, because sometimes I don’t want to dress neutral or practical. Continue reading My Good Shoes Gone Bad, Cupcake!

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No Need To Worry, Cupcake (6 Stress Less Strategies)

http://ownyourcupcake.comMost humans spend a lot of their time worrying. We worry about the future, about the past. We worry about our physical looks, our diets, our schedules, our families. We worry about serious things such as our health or loved ones. We worry about less serious things such as matching socks, or which toothpaste will make our teeth look the whitest. And society is only more than happy to help remind us that if we are not worried, we should be. Most of the time, there is no need to worry, Cupcake. In fact, unnecessary stress may impede the success or take the  joy out of simply living your life. Continue reading No Need To Worry, Cupcake (6 Stress Less Strategies)

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Bad Toro is no Cupcake, Cupcake!

Http://ownyourcupcake.comThis is my wonderful black lab, El Toro. Most of the time, he is just like any other Labrador Retriever: kind, loving, eager to please, eager to play, and happy just to be doing something with me.  Lately, however, things have changed. My wonderful Toro is turning into a bad Toro, and this bad Toro is no Cupcake.  Continue reading Bad Toro is no Cupcake, Cupcake!

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Control Your Dog, Cupcake!

5 Suggestions for Small Dog Owners

I am tired of people hating on big dogs. Of course, I am completely biased, as my smallest dog weighs 88 pounds (you can see their adorable faces on my about page). I understand that their teeth are big; I’ve brushed them. I know their paws are huge; I have wiped them a million times over before they are allowed in the house. I know they have the capability to harm others. However, they are big marshmallows, and I have something to say to all owners of aggressive small dogs: “Get control of your dog, Cupcake!” Continue reading Control Your Dog, Cupcake!

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Don’t Panic, Cupcake! (Technology STINKS)
Ok, so in the spirit of blogging every day, I am channeling my friend Sabine, and writing from my iPhone. I need to relax and be calm. “Don’t panic, Cupcake.” I tell myself this as, of course, I panic. Why?
Because I have a nasty worm virus on my laptop. If this isn’t bad enough, since my computers are all linked to each other, they are ALL INFECTED! So, to make a long story longer, I have given my favorite laptop to the Geek Squad from Best Buy.

I am trying not to panic. What can go wrong?

Well, for starters, they can put my computer back at factory settings, in which case all my research files will be lost. All my images will be lost, as well.

They can put another program in my system and steal information from me.

They could lose my computer, or break it (not that this would be bad, but again, nothing is backed up on a USB drive).

So, is this a Law of Attraction problem, or just simple Liz paranoia? Will my computer be ok? Will my blogs be ok? Will my pictures be ok? Will they plagiarize some of my papers that are currently under review in academic magazines?

And hey, I’ve backed up my files on the other computers, which are also out of current commission. Some papers are on flash drives, but not all. Don’t judge: you should know by now computers and I are not BFFs.

Ugh! And I hate the waiting game! How long will it take? They said it was a relatively simple problem once they identified the worm, but they haven’t called me. Was it worse than they expected? Did they do something wrong? If I haven’t heard from them when I get off work, should I call them and ask how my baby is doing?

Or should I relax? Breathe deeply, and trust that everything will be ohhh…kayyyy. Since I am not a billionaire, and I am a relatively boring person–seriously, only other academics would pilfer an academic’s work–I think I should just let the techs do their awesome magic and play the waiting game.

And since I am exhausted, I should just go to bed, and tomorrow figure out a way to post a picture from my media page 🙂 ok. Got it. All over calm. Right now I am the epitome of calm. Don’t panic, Cupcake. It’ll be fine.

Check on me tomorrow.

Ok, Cupcake, time to share and care. What sends you into panic mode?

Let me know how it’s going, and stay frosted!

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To Create or To Destroy: That is the Question, Cupcake

This is going to be a short post, for me, at least. It may seem more like a rant to you. At the end of the day, we have but one question to ask ourselves. To create or to not create; that is the question, Cupcake. Continue reading To Create or To Destroy: That is the Question, Cupcake

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